Friday, April 24, 2009

Updates

Updates...I am currently having my dinner now...it has been like this for quite a while, working late and having dinner EVEN later!

Although busy with work, I still managed to meet up with some old friends and I was quite elated that they checked me out first. Somehow, it made me feel that I still have a place in their heart although we meet once in a blue moon.

Recently, the weather has been so hot that it actually goes up to 35 degree!!!! The fan at home is not working at all!!!! Stupid fan!!! I cannot even take my weekend afternoon nap...:(
"Rain, rain comes again, little pling wants to sleep" muahahahahaha...

Oh, one more update; I am hooked up to Reborn manga and I had finished all the chapters till the most recent one. Now, waiting for the next chapter!!! Yeah!!! I had just reading the latest chapter of Bleach and "OH MY GOD!!!" My hitsu was chopped apart by that bitch!!! Yes, from this moment, I will call her bitch!!!! how dare she!!! I can't wait for the next chapter!! Hitsu, mama is coming to save you~~~~~

Saturday, April 18, 2009

Beautiful inside

I happened to come across this video when I was surfing the net at work. Out of curiosity, I watched the video and it made me teary, no matter how many times I had watched it.


Her voice is wonderful and it just brought out something from me, hope. This is also a reminder again, not to judge a person by his / her looks and looks without talent are just useless.



Monday, April 13, 2009

Aftermath 2

Last week, my boss and I had a long talk, regarding what happened that night. He pointed out that I had crossed over the boundaries of the bosses' management policy by asking him about the salary issue which I didn't realise at all till then. And I explained to him about my feelings throughout for that day. Then we moved on to talk alot of other related stuffs. We sort of "resolved" what happened that night and new rules were implemented to draw a line between the employer and employee so as if to avoid what happened previously.

The only problem left unsolved was my lady boss. At first, I couldn't put my pride down to make the first approach because I know I was not in complete wrong but it was not good to have such a strained relationship between lady boss and me so I was sort of in a dilemma. Finally, I had decided to consult my boss and asked him to give his advice as a third party, a stranger.

We talked alot again and I don't think I am going to repeat all he said now =.=III The main piece of advice he gave me is "施恩不要求回报" . (To give willingly without asking for return) So with that, I had decided to let go and made the first move. And I really got an unexpected return from lady boss and we had a talk again.

Now, I feel peace at heart. It was such a wonderful feeling, so light hearted and peaceful. =D

Sunday, April 5, 2009

My Brother

My brother is an asshole since a long time. He has been living on us on food, shelter and money but when he has money, he will spend it on his girlfriend mostly or his personal stuff. We didn't ask him to contribute all his $$ to the family income because we never ever expect he will do that in the first place.

Now, he didn't even bother to help out with keeping the house clean. When I asked him to bring the garbage downstairs on his way out, he will only do it when I insisted, otherwise, he will pretend he never sees anything except his girlfriend or his own stuff. When I confront him on this, he will say, " Well, I only contribute little of the rubbish in the garbage, you guys are the one who throw so many things." So I replied, " If you want to be so calculative, I can fully list out alot of things to settle with you. " Then he kept quiet. He is just like that bitch. He is always right, even when I tried to tell him about my problems. The first thing he said to me is, " No need to guess, surely is your fault again. " Yar right, everything is my fault and the greatest fault of my life is to bring the bread home for you to eat, you asshole!!!!

My brother is an asshole!!!!

Saturday, April 4, 2009

Aftermath

After that day, my humiliation and tears turned into hate. I know this is not good but I can't stop myself anymore. Every now and then, I will have flashed back of that woman's face infront of me, when I saw that bitchy, aggressive and smug look on her face and those words, humiliation and anger rose. I feel like slapping her whenever I think of that. Now, it is not a matter of the salary issue, I was quite affected by it at the beginning but the truth is I was angry to be blamed and humiliated for things I didn't do. I WAS NOT THROWING A TEMPER THAT NIGHT, YOU BITCHY SHREW!!!!!!

I couldn't cry the next day, which was yesterday. My eyes were red, swollen and hurting for the whole day. I thought everyone has given up on me but Juan believed what I had said. Even if I was in wrong, what I really want now is words of console or to lend a shoulder or ear, not preaching me to review or be in my bosses' shoes. That's not what I wanted at this moment, I hate to admit but I am a weakling at this moment. @~@

Fortunately, I saw something sweet in my blog. I was very touched when I saw my friend's comment. I didn't want to alarm so many people about that incident because I was not in a good shape to recap everything about that night but this friend of mine, she actually went to read my blog after I asked her about some job related stuff. I really really very touched by her concern. Thank you so much, my friend. (You know who you are, *winks*)

I know is time to let go and I am trying. I know the cause of all this is because I was unable to let go so I got burnt in the end. I hope I can completely let go eventually.

Friday, April 3, 2009

Humiliation

Humiliation

~flash back~

Location : office

After the interviewer left, PL was discussing the potential ones with her boss.

PL:” This person is not a PR yet, he needs to work in SG for 3 years before he can apply for PR. “

Boss, “ yes…oh, this reminds me, M was not a PR when she joined us, she was still studying. It was only when she finished her studies, then she applied for PR”.

PL suddenly realized something. “So M was fetching $XXX when she just entered the office??” (For foreigners to work in SG, those holding “professional” certificates, there is a min amount that the employer needs to give them)

Boss looked awkward and said, “Well, she was a holding a degree”.

PL was in shock. She joined the office one year ago and she was the only staff back then. The office was just branching out. She found it unbelievable that she was holding a salary, lower than M when she was more experienced than her. Although M was a degree holder but she had no experience in the office’s scope of work and the lock pad to PL’s old memories was opened. M had once turned the tables against her, together with the new colleagues and was back stabbing PL.

PL:” But you said you don’t care about her qualification, you only judge her by working experience and knowledge of the work scope!!!!!”

Boss looked nervous and burst out, “But I need to respect her as a degree-holder!!!”

This sentenced pierced PL like a sharp knife and at that instant, she felt insulted so she turned back to her desk and continued with her work.

PL was trying to balance the news that she just heard but she couldn't keep calm as memories of M betraying her and isolated her during the office trip at Perth.

Then, Boss’s wife came in and asked PL if she wanted to have dinner with them. PL rejected, she didn’t even feel like staying at that place for even one minute.

Boss’s wife persuaded her again but, knowing her own temper, PL chose to keep quiet but shake her head and resumed back to her work, praying hard that Boss’s wife would leave her alone. And she did, together with the Boss.

PL decided to end her day at office so she started to pack up. She needed some time to cool down and get over the shocking news. She tried to act casually as she left the office, knowing that the Bosses would be having their dinner in the pantry, which was along the corridor leading to the main entrance.

At the pantry,

PL:” I am going off now, bye…” And she hurried past the couple.

Boss:” Wait, wait, I need to talk to you. “

PL knew what the Boss and Boss’s wife wanted to talk to her but she just didn’t want to listen to anything at that moment, she just wanted to go off as soon as possible.

“I don’t want to talk about it. “ PL replied, with her back, facing the Bosses and escaped into the washroom which was located just right next to the entrance. But, she made the wrong move. She could hear footsteps outside and knew that there was someone outside, waiting for her. She tried to avoid that by asking a friend for help. She sms-ed this friend to call her, so as to diverse attention.

She opened the door and found Boss’s wife standing at the entrance, her hand reaching out, blocking her way.

PL. “I want to go home now”.

Boss’s wife:” I want to talk to you now. “

PL struggled, “I am tired, I want to go home now, and can we talk tomorrow?”

Boss’s wife, “But I want to talk to you now, you just listen, no need to say anything.”

PL paused and said into her phone, “Hey, sorry, can I call you back later?” Her friend agreed, sounded worried.

Boss’s wife began, “I am very disappointed in you, who told you that M was fetching a higher salary than you, you rather believe other than us, you have been with us for 4-5 years and you are also our first priority, I will never get someone who has a higher salary than you, to let you supervise. I tell you, M was holding a salary lower than you when she first joined us. I only increased her salary after she worked with us for one year by $100 bucks.
If you have anything not clear or happy, you can voice out, we are very open about it, don’t just throw a temper when you are not happy about something.”

Boss interrupted from his seat, which was about 4-5 meters away from the main entrance, “You are not a kid anymore. “

Boss’s wife was still speaking, “ Sometimes, you have been so rude to XXX (boss’s name), talking loudly, like just now…”

PL was staring into the space and was silent all this while. Upon hearing that, she turned and said in a loud voice, “If you think I was rude to you just now, I apologized.”

Boss, “That’s the right attitude”.

PL added on, “Can I go home now?”

Boss, “See, you are throwing a temper now. “

Boss’s wife interrupted, “Crying, yelling and shouting loudly will not make you a winner…”

At that moment, PL felt like an injured animal, trapped with two hunters, pointing the rifles at her and kept firing. PL has a tendency to cry easily when she is emotionally involved with different type of feelings, be it anger or sad. But this time, she felt humiliated.

Boss’s wife finished her last sentence and walked back to where Boss was seating.

PL turned and spoke, “Can I go home now?”

Boss did the hand gesture of “please” and PL left.

Tears of humiliation began flowing down like raindrops. She felt so helpless and innocent. All she wanted was to go home and calm down but the ruthless hunters were slamming her with bullets, relentlessly. Of all the emotions she felt earlier, she felt so useless on her way home because she was crying uncontrollably till now.